Upon release, "Lose You to Love Me" received widespread acclaim from music critics , who praised the lyrics, minimal production, and Gomez's vocal performance. Debuting at number 15 on the US Billboard Hot , the song skyrocketed to the top spot in its second week, becoming Gomez's first number-one single on the chart. The song has attained several gold, platinum and multi-platinum certifications worldwide. The accompanying music video premiered on YouTube coinciding with the song's release. It is a simplistic black-and-white video directed by Sophie Muller and filmed entirely on an iPhone 11 Pro in Los Angeles. It features Gomez singing straight to the camera, in a confessional. Gomez made the debut performance of the song at the American Music Awards on November 24, Gomez revealed in April that she was working on new music. Chris Monlanpy from Slate stated "with only piano and Gomez's voice, then grows ever more stirring with plucked strings, a choir of backing vocals, and, more than halfway through, a subtle heartbeat thump that's the closest thing to a beat in the whole song.
Selena Gomez had one specific goal in mind when writing her hit single "Lose You to Love Me," and it had everything to do with a past relationship. Speaking with NPR's Lulu Garcia-Navarro during an episode of Weekend Edition Sunday , the year-old pop star opened up about the deeper meaning behind the surface-level revelations the song featured. As it turns out, her reasoning for penning the ballad was a search for closure after the relationship allegedly with Justin Bieber ended. It was very difficult and I'm happy it's over. And I felt like this was a great way to just say, you know, it's done, and I understand that, and I respect that, and now here I am stepping into a whole other chapter. She stated that she also had to find a way to understand being a victim of "certain abuse," though she demurred about what kind of treatment she had been facing specifically. As much as I definitely don't want to spend the rest of my life talking about this, I am really proud that I can say I feel the strongest I've ever felt and I've found a way to just walk through it with as much grace as possible. Gomez just debuted Rare , her first new album in four years, earlier in January
Selena Gomez's new era in music began at midnight—and her first single, "Lose You to Love Me," is an emotional glimpse at her headspace over the last year. Gomez reflects on reclaiming herself at the end of a relationship, one fans speculated ahead of the song's release was probably hers with Justin Bieber. Ahead of the song's release, Gomez wrote on Vevo that the song was about several life events. Bieber and Gomez ended their on-off relationship for good in March last year.
She shows the raw, twisted emotions layered on her face in the black-and-white accompanying visual, and what feels grim at first turns hopeful by the end. We'd always go into it blindly I needed to lose you to find me This dance, it was killing me softly I needed to hate you to love me, yeah. To love, love, yeah To love, love, yeah To love, yeah I needed to lose you to love me, yeah To love, love, yeah To love, love, yeah To love, yeah I needed to lose you to love me. I gave my all and they all know it Then you tore me down and now it's showing In two months, you replaced us Like it was easy Made me think I deserved it In the thick of healing, yeah. You promised the world and I fell for it I put you first and you adored it Set fires to my forest And you let it burn Sang off-key in my chorus. To love, love, yeah To love, love, yeah To love, yeah I needed to hate you to love me, yeah To love, love, yeah To love, love, yeah To love, yeah I needed to lose you to love me To love, love, yeah To love, love, yeah To love, yeah. And now the chapter is closed and done To love, love, yeah To love, love, yeah To love, yeah And now it's goodbye, it's goodbye for us.